Reading – Quote from The Gift by Daniel Ladinsky:

Note: This quote is often misattributed to Hafiz.  However, the author did not translate this poem from any Farsi writings of Hafiz.  Rather, Ladinsky says that Hafiz gave him these poems in a dream, in English, so he named his book of poetry “The Gift: Poems from Hafiz the great Sufi Master”.  Many have thought this meant Ladinsky was translating from Hafiz’s poetry, but this is not the case. Regardless, it is a beautiful quote. 


“Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth “you owe me”. Look at what happens with a love like that, it lights the whole sky.”




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Ceremony – Plant Unity Ceremony – adapted by Arwen Freer

A healthy relationship, like a healthy plant depends on nurturing gardeners. The couple will be symbolizing their union by potting a plant together.

You must start with a foundation that allows for space and growth, so you begin with a layer of stones. While making a strong foundation, there is space between them to let extra water flow through and ensure your delicate plant does not drown. In your relationship, also remember that you will need to respect your partner and give them space to be themselves.

Next you must nurture growth; so you add a layer of soil. In your relationship, you have the foundation of love, respect, admiration and teamwork to nurture your bond.  This is the foundation where you will grow the roots of your relationship strong and deep.

Now that you have prepared your foundation, you can put your plant in this fertile ground, as you plant your relationship in this foundation of support and love.

Finally, we must remember that relationships require constant replenishment. As you water your plant for the first time, remember also to water your relationship with understanding, patience, support, and attention to each other’s needs.

As you look forward in your relationship, remember to be the constant gardener. Continue to water your plant, and remember to replenish your relationship with ongoing support.  Fertilize your plant, and give your relationship an occasional boots by trying and learning new things together.  Be sure your plant is getting enough light; keep honesty and open communication in your relationship every day.  Prune your plant; continue to better yourselves and your relationship, putting behind you anything that does not support its growth and strength.  With constant care, your marriage, like this plant will grow and prosper.



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